5. Learn To Apologize and Empathize When You {Help to make|Produce|Generate} A Social Mistake

Socially awkward people {are incredibly} careful to not violate any invisible social rules. {All of us|We all} don't really {really know what} these rules are, but {We|I actually|My spouse and i} think we {believe|assume that} once we break {a guideline|a regulation|a secret} or say the incorrect thing, we're screwed. Persons won't ever like all of us. Future job interviewers will laugh in our {encounters|looks|deals with}. We'll all die virgins. And so on.

{Nothing at all|Little or nothing} could be further from {the facts|the reality|the fact}.

Paradoxically, being {excessively|extremely} hesitant, timid and careful {to not|never to|to never} offend people is what makes you {uncomfortable|cumbersome|difficult} and turns people off. So here's how to fix this problem...

What do people do when they make {an interpersonal|a sociable|a cultural} mistake? They apologize and empathize. If you say something weird or {unpleasant|attacking|questionable} to someone you are not yet doomed. {Simply|Merely|Only} say "Oh sorry, that didn't {turn out|appear|emerge} the way I intended! " and then change the {susceptible to|controlled by|be subject to} something else.

With experience you'll learn that you can handle making the occasional mistake or {misstep|gaffe|foulup}. Which will give you more confidence. You'll feel less scared about {humiliating|disturbing|upsetting} yourself by saying something too boring, dumb or offensive. {Which can make|That make} you speak up {easier|more readily} and more often. This doesn't happen overnight -- it's a learning process.

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